It is so damn good to be back in the West. I cried at the sight of clouds when I deplaned. As I flew home from Abu Dhabi on July 4th, I was welcomed with fireworks, but I managed to sleep through most of them as I was no longer upright after 10pm. Summer thunder storms happened all weekend and I cried again. I have been to two weddings, both strangely enough in Idaho, Mt. biking, hiking, eating prosciutto, drinking delicious wine and hugging Kirk a lot.
I have been doing a lot of smiling and crying, a lot of talking, because everyone and their mother wants to know what it was like living in Abu Dhabi, and a lot of mental musing. I am very glad I took the opportunity/challenge and lived in a (very) foreign country for two years. I realize I missed out on a lot while I was gone but I had a life experience that reaffirmed I am capable of anything I put my mind to. It was both a benison and a bane.
Bane: A source of harm or ruin, curse.
Benison; A blessing, benediction.
So, the bane part:
Missing family: I missed my partner Kirk and my family. Granted, I did see Kirk every three months but being on holiday is not the same as living together. The separation was harder on him than me, as I had challenges to overcome daily, that absorbed all my energy. He was in our house, surrounded by my stuff. I missed family gatherings and celebrations.
Missing my active lifestyle: I am naturally predisposed to be outdoors. I chose/choose to live in Utah because of the opportunities to be communing with nature. I found a partner who loves the pursuits as much as I do and they include biking, hiking, backpacking, kayaking, snowshoeing, camping, skiing, and sitting outside on the back desk or at a concert. I missed all of these things so much it was painful. And it was harmful to my physical, emotional and mental health. There are outdoor opportunities in the UAE and I did a damn good job of finding those that pleased me, but there is truly no comparison. So, I missed my active lifestyle full of nature: Mts., rivers, trees, birds, snow, trails, mud, clouds, blue sky, grass, meadows, storms, breezes, and wide open spaces not filled with sand!
Missing friends: I have a lot of friends in different pods. I missed interacting with them, growing our shared experiences, making new memories, celebrating and crying with them. My life was less rich in Abu Dhabi and I spent more time alone, by choice, than I do in Salt Lake City. I missed some huge moments, including one of my best friend’s weddings and that makes me sad. A lot of my lovely AD friends are young, in their 20’s and 30’s and full of the desire to go out and party. I am not in that place. I never once went out to a ‘ladies night’ for free drinks, and they have them every night of the week. I never once went to a club for dancing. I never once went clubbing in Dubai. On the other hand, most of my friends my age, 50 +/-, were not as manic about exercise as I, and preferred the salon to the sea, the mall to the mangroves. I never went to a brunch on Friday. This stems in part from my parsimonious ways as I have a hard time spending over 50$ for a meal, and I only really enjoy a brunch after a big workout.
My shopping fix: I missed thrift shopping. That may sound absurd, but it is something I very much enjoy. It goes against my very nature to buy anything new except food and underwear, so life was a challenge. New things are expensive!!!! I am able to go years without visiting a mall and in AD it was practically a daily occurrence. St. Andrew’s Thrift Shop is the only second-hand shop and I did buy a lot of books there.
Grocery shopping: Going to the grocery store without going to the mall seems like a basic proposition. Not so in AD. The grocery store is IN a mall so you need to traverse escalators, elevators, and moving sidewalks with your purchases. Granted there are small 7-11 type stores but many of them were closed due to health and safety reasons.
Teaching was a challenge. Nuff said.
The blessing part:
New friends: I did make some amazing new friends who live in different corners of the globe. I know we will be in touch for life. Florida, Nevada, Toronto, New York, South Africa, New Zealand, Umm Al Quwain, and of course, Abu Dhabi. I have at least 20 places to stay should I want to go back for a visit.
Money: Yup. I went to AD with the expectation of saving a lot of money and I met my goal. It felt really great to be in a tax-free environment and to have my housing paid for. If you have enough self-discipline, you can save at least half of what you make every year. For the first time in my life, upon my return, I bought a brand new car. And a new Mt. bike. And a new laptop. And a smart phone……….. but I am done with that now and back to my thrift shopping ways.
SUPing & Dragon boating: What would I have done without the water????? Surely done a runner or gone insane. Little did I know I was going to get absolutely hooked on a new sport but I am in love with my SUP. (We are going out to enjoy the full moon tonight on a nearby lake.) Dragon Boating kept me in shape with 5 practices every week and the regattas were a whole lot of fun! Go Capitol Dragons! I am now convinced Salt Lake would be perfect if there was a natural lake near by. A living lake that is.
Travel: As you may know by know, I like to travel. I regret not doing more and wish I had visited Lebanon, Jordan and Egypt. I have put them on my very long bucket list. I did see all 7 Emirates and visited Oman 5 times. If I ever go back, I will make use of each long weekend to jet off somewhere.
Developing patience: Every year for my resolution I promise to be more patient. It hasn’t worked yet. But in AD I tried as there was no option. Things happen at a different speed, days or weeks later than you think they should. So I always took a book, learned to expect to wait for hours for my number to be called, and only got grumpy when people queue hopped every other time it happened!
Am I glad I went? Over all, yes. Am I glad it is over and I am home? Extremely! If you have ever wanted to live overseas and teach, AD is a good choice for the money and the prevalence of English. Just be prepared to make some adjustments and sacrifices, keep you sense of humor, and you will be fine!